The Art of Cutting People Off: Outgrowing Your Posse

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Today on Karma Bliss we want to talk about ‘outgrowing your posse’. Sometimes in life we outgrow our friends or our surroundings. And it’s OKAY. Oftentimes we give ourselves praise based on the space we create in connection to others and what we are leaving behind. Creating distance from people should not be considered a punishment for them, nor should the interval in communication between you and your squad carry any resentment or guilt.

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Sometimes in life we outgrow our friends or our surroundings. And it’s OKAY. Oftentimes we give ourselves praise based on the space we create in connection to others and what we are leaving behind. Creating distance from people should not be considered a punishment for them, nor should the interval in communication between you and your squad carry any resentment or guilt.

This is the season that you’re in. You do not have to experience a falling out or have some semblance of closure to move on from a friendship. We’ve got to take the ego and the judgement out of growing. Sometimes distance can begin and it doesn’t necessarily have to be on the heels of something ending, but rather something beginning.

Doctors Ron & Mary Hulnick have done extensive teaching on a concept they created called “spiritual curriculum”. Spiritual curriculum is when you look at Earth as as school, a place where you have come to learn and grow. Every person walking the halls with you however is taking different classes and pursuing curriculum in a degree that is linked with their own personal destiny. With that understanding....we can come into acceptance with the fact that spiritually, emotionally and psychologically, we can be lightyears apart from even the people we deeply care about.

When we are able to judge people based on who they are and not based on who we are, we create space for accepting each other for where we are at in our process. Don’t allow yourself to carry guilt surrounding the season that you are in.

Let’s reframe the conversation surrounding cancel culture. Let’s take the ego out of ‘cutting people off’ and exude peace and compassion toward them, and focus more on our own healing. Now let’s close our eyes. Start to imagine everyone in your life that you may be having a problematic relationship with or need to dissociate from.

Take a deep breath and send them on their journey with love and healing.

Allow the natural flow of life to take over, and use the freedom as an opportunity for extended growth.